Uh oh my dog looks guilty!

The other day my cattle dog Bill ate a cupcake off of the counter.  He licked the icing off another one.  My husband found the crumbs of the first cupcake and the frosting missing off of the other and said, "Oh man, someone ate a cupcake off the counter.  Hey, they licked the frosting off of this one".  There are only two dogs big enough to do this but I was pretty sure which dog it was.  I didnt say anything but looked for Bill and found him lying down behind the couch looking very "guilty".  He looked the exact same way when my husband raises his voice because his football team is losing, when something he is working on around the house isnt going his way and when he is losing at his video game.  Do you see where this is going?  Bill didnt feel "guilty" because he ate a cupcake, in fact, he didnt realize Rick was vocalizing about cupcakes, he responds that way anytime Rick is upset about anything.  Bill is very close and attach to Rick and freakishly in tune with Ricks emotions.  He is so sensitive to Ricks tone of voice in fact, that every time Rick raises his voice he slinks away regardless of what Rick is talking about or who Rick is talking to.  In fact, Rick has taken to saying, "Its okay Bill, its not you" nearly every time he raises his voice to stop Bill from worrying. 


People are always saying that their dogs feel "guilty".  They say this because this is how they perceive their dogs body language, usually just after they have found something that the dog has done that they dont like.  What they dont understand is that the dog is not responding this way because he feels "guilt" or "remorse" over something he has done, in fact, the dog usually has not clue that he did something "wrong".  The dog is simply responding to the owners tone of voice and body language.  If a person comes home from work, finds poop in the house, then has an anger meltdown because they have to clean it up, the dog will begin to look worried and afraid when the owner comes home.  It isnt because of what he did, it is because of his past experiences of his owner coming home and then getting angry.  By the way, a dog can find our reactions punishing regardless of how benign they may seem.  To some very sensitive dogs, something has subtle as a heavy sigh or look of discuss can be punishing to the dog.  It is so interesting to me how people are can be completely resistant to the fact that dogs have emotions (which they do) or they believe that they have emotions and because they do, they must be exactly like human emotions (which they arent). 

Dogs repeat behaviors that are reinforcing.  They also live in the moment.  I had a very hard time resisting those cupcakes, even though I had already eaten one!  Bill saw them on the counter and wanted one, so he took one.  I believe he saw it, wanted it, took it, ate it and then it was over.  He probably forgot about the cupcake the moment he was finished eating it (even though there was still frosting on his lip when I found him behind the couch!).  When Rick started to complain that a cupcake was eaten, Bill heard his tone and got worried like he always does.  There was no cupcake-guilt about it.  By the way, we didnt care too much that he ate a cupcake and Bill didnt get in "trouble" for it, we just felt stupid for leaving the cupcake container open on the edge of the counter.  STUPID!


There has been a video circulating on the internet of a "guilty dog".  The owner comes to the dog with a ripped bag of cat treats and says to the dog "Did you do this?  Did you rip open these cat treats?".  The dogs starts to do a series of appeasement behaviors including pinning his ears back, yawning, lip licking, squinting his eyes, and finally offering a full, submissive grin with all of his teeth showing.  People watch it and laugh and say that the dog is guilty, but the dog is not feeling "guilty" the dog is simply responding to the owners tone of voice.  Its sad to watch actually if you know what is going on.  If you tested it (which I dont recommend you do since its stressful to your dog) you would see that your dog will respond the same way if your tone and body language worries him.

The take away message here is "please dont assume your dog is feeling guilty", he is likely just responding to you.  Oh, and remember to put the lid back on the cupcake container before leaving it on the counter!